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Little Ochanya gave up the ghost on 18th of October at Otukpo General Hospital after unsuccessful battle with VVF.

Cause of Ochanya’s VVF – Ochanya Elizabeth Ogbaje contracted VVF due to the incessant assault on her tender anus and vagina for more than 3 years. She was raped and sodomized from 8 years old when she came to live with her mother’s relative. At 13 years old, Ochanya eventually lost the battle.

The Culprits

Randy father and son rapists

Whatever name you give them, they deserve it. Mr. Andrew, 51, is a Senior Lecturer. His son Victor is a final year student. Both found an 8 year old body irresistible, they found her more alluring than all the beautiful tantalizing ladies around. The son began the raping game first but when his sister discovered it and reported to the family, the father, after paying lip servicw to the issue, joined his son. Together, they raped and ssodomized Ochanya for years, destroying her young organs in the process.

The Police arrested Mr. Lecturer earlier on, but for God knows why, he was released from custody. Not only was he released, he went right back to his lectures and his normal life. The son? No one seems to know his whereabouts.

OCHANYA –

Raped and sodomized to death at 13

In pursuit of education and better life, Ochanya left her village to live with her relatives – the rapists. According to her, her woes began when she was just 8. Both men took turns ravaging her.

Wondering why she didn’t seek help? If you have ever been a victim of rape, you wouldn’t wonder. Besides, the barbarians threatened her and on occasions, drugged her into submission. Despite all her tribulations, she continued with her education which the demons terminated at Junior Secondary class 1.

And Mrs Andrew?

Knight and Lady of St. Mulumba without conscience

Ochanya’s aunt, I kept wondering about her, wondering whether she was dead, insane or simply blind. But obviously, none of the above applies to her. I personally would love to hear from her. Like, ask her how she could turn a blind eye to such inhuman acts in her home. Was she watching while her men did it? Are they all perverts? What was she thinking? How could she keep mute in such disheartening and traumatic situation? Did she hate Ochanya that much?

The Nigerian Justice System – The Police arrested Mr. Randy lecturer. He was arraigned before a court, remanded in prison custody, refused bail, yet he was home and free, going about his normal business. How did he escape from custody when there was no bail and no prison break?

Randy undergraduate son was never arrested, never charged to court, not detained. How come he is invisible? Or maybe he is simply above the law.

My heart weeps for Ochanya, for all her unsown fields, for all her unfulfilled dreams. I weep for the childhood she was denied, for the trauma she underwent for years. I weep for her pains and trauma.

Will Ochanya’s death and suffering not be appeased? Will she be denied justice even in death? Will Nigeria fail her in life and in death?

I demand #JusticeForOchanya. That is the only way her death can be endured and appeased, only when the rapist family Pay for their inhuman treatment.

#JusticeForOchanya

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Today is the International Day of the Girl Child and the theme for this year is Girls’ Progress = Goals’ Progress: What Counts for Girls.

In the spirit of today’s celebration therefore, I share with you this post from PLAN International on making our cities safer for girls. This is just one out of the myriad issues faced by girls around the world. In our own little corner, we can all contribute our little quota to making our world better and safer for the girl child.

Make cities safer for girls

Cities around the world aren’t safe for girls. Plan International research shows that girls often don’t feel safe in their own cities, and the fear of abuse and harassment means that there are no-go areas, making girls pick up their pace as they walk home.

For the first time in history there are more people living in cities than in rural areas, and by 2030 around 700 million girls will be living in cities. As a result, girls’ safety in cities is becoming a global problem which must be addressed.

In October, world leaders will meet in Quito, Ecuador, for the third United Nations’ Conference on Housing and Sustainable Urban Development (Habitat III). We’re asking these authorities to make girls the priority when considering future city planning.

GIRLS RISK ABUSE AND DANGER

STAND UP FOR GIRLS AND TELL WORLD LEADERS THEY HAVE TO MAKE CITIES SAFER FOR GIRLS

SIGN THE PETITION

WHAT OUR RESEARCH SAYS

96% of adolescent girls

don’t feel safe in Delhi

just 2.2% of girls

say they felt safe in public spaces in Lima

48% of British women

said they felt unsafe walking alone after dark when they were of school age

Around the world we’ve listened to girls as they tell us why they feel they have to pick up the pace as they walk through their cities. “I pick up the pace when I am alone in a dark street and I don’t feel safe,” says Amal, 13 from Cairo.

Plan International runs programmes in cities around the world aimed at empowering girls and enabling them to become advocates for their cities’ safety. Girls in Delhi, Kampala, Lima, Hanoi, and Habitat III host-city Quito, have told us about their daily experiences:

“On the streets there’s a lot of crime, I feel threatened and in the shadows, there could be someone waiting to rob you, kidnap you or even rape you.” Maribel, 19, Quito.

Almost two thirds of adult women in Britain say they feel unsafe walking alone after dark. Almost half felt the same way when they were of school age. This is in contrast to 33 per cent of adult men and 35% per cent of men when they were of school age. Men and women living in urban areas felt more unsafe walking alone after dark than those living in rural areas.

WHY WE NEED TO SEE CHANGE

This once-in-a-generation conference could shape the way cities are designed in the future, so we must make sure that the world leaders in Quito listen to young people and make our cities safer for girls.

Supported by Plan International, Maribel, along with other youth campaigners from Ecuador, will be delivering the global petition at the UN Conference in mid-October – let’s make sure they deliver the message that people around the world want girls to be free of abuse and harassment as they walk to and from school or their home.

“ These changes are needed in every corner of the world, not just in one or two countries. With support from around the world, we can go from feeling like a small voice, to one large, united force, making sure world leaders hear us loud and clear.” Maribel, Quito.

Source: https://plan-uk.org/act-for-girls/make-cities-safer-for-girls?utm_source=Adestra&utm_medium=email&utm_term=&utm_content=PS%20Find%20out%20more%20about%20the%20campaign%20at%20plan-uk.org%2Fsafercities&utm_campaign=315%3A%20Share%20Intl%20Day%20of%20the%20Girl%20%28Habitat%29


Teachers taking over from ‘uncles’ in the child molestation bill board chart?

There is this incident that happened in a private school in Lagos state recently which my friend who teaches in the school narrated to me.
A ten year old pupil of the school who recently relocated from the UK to Lagos with her parents reported to her parents that one of her teachers was molesting her sexually. The parents promptly took it up with the school authorities.

When the accused teacher got wind of it, he claimed innocence, and took offense that his name was being tarnished and quit coming to school even before the matter could be discussed by all the parties involved.

The school authority for reasons known only to them, sacked another teacher who was purportedly innocent but recalled the accused.
The little girl who was molested became agitated and her class teacher on seeing the girl’s distress called her aside and asked her what was disturbing her. She told the teacher that her molester was still around the school while the other teacher who had always been nice to her had stopped coming to school.
The teacher called the head teacher of the school and together they recorded the girl’s confession of what transpired which they made available to the school head.
The accused teacher was thus relieved of his duties with an apology and that was the end of it.

Recently there was a media report of same incident, another school, another teacher, different set of students, same state, same reaction from the school authority.

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In both cases, the accused teachers were not apprehended, they were left to continue preying on little girls. Both schools, albeit many others, prefer exposing more kids to these molesters in order to protect their name. I bet you that the accused teachers in both cases have found employment in other schools and what are they likely to continue doing? 

I know competition is stiff thus the need to keep everything hush lest these schools lose their students and pupils due to scandal. Yet if it had happened to the proprietor’s daughter, will he take same action? Would he not have handed the teacher over to the appropriate authorities for befitting punishment?

It pains me because many more girls will be forced to endure same fate which could have been avoided. If the matter was further investigated, I bet you some other girls from those schools would have come out to testify to having been molested by same teachers.

One thing I take away from these incidents is that parents have a great role to play in protecting their little ones. The ten year old girl who relocated newly from the UK was obviously better equipped to handle molestation than some of her peers who grew up in Nigeria. She was not the first nor will she be the last, but she had enough guts to tell her parents even though the teacher must have warned her otherwise. What did her parents do that the other parents were not doing?

I think communication is the first key. The girl was free enough to tell her parents what she was passing through. Can my children freely come up to me and share their pains with me? Am I physically and emotionally available to them always?

Secondly, knowledge is power. If you are not informed, then you become deformed physically or mentally. I believe her parents empowered her with the right information to fight such situations. Some parents still would not talk about sex and molestation to their kids when we know that the wrong information abound everywhere, even under our very noses.

Also, this brave girl was raised to have her own voice. Obviously, she was not raised to believe that she is a voiceless second hand citizen who should shut up and swallow whatever is shoved down her guts. She was raised to stand up for her right from a tender age. Imagine if she had remained silent like the others.

We cannot always be around to protect our children from all the dangers of this world, but we can empower them early enough to be able to fight for themselves.

Happy weekend y’all!

AlluringEby



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