November 25th to December 10th should remind us not just to say NO to violence against women and girls but to also protect them whenever and however we can.
Often times we erroneously believe that violence against women is limited to physical abuse like battering and rape. But when a woman/girl is abused to the point of causing her trauma,psychologically, emotionally or financially, it is an act of violence against her. The effect of the abuse qualifies it as one.
“ He told me that if I hung up, he’d do it. He would commit suicide. He told me that if I called the cops he would kill every single one of them and I knew that he had the potential and the means to do it
Sierra D. Waters, Debbie.
Typical example. It may sound simple but I guarantee you that it has far reaching effects on her.
I was at the salon this evening when a little child was almost run over by a bike if not for the vigilance of the driver. But what surprised me was that the ladies in the salon did not say one unkind word against the mother. She was walking in front, heavily pregnant with a huge bag of corn on her head and other market wares in both hands, leaving the child on his own behind her. Now here is the conversation that ensued,
Hairdresser:But why can’t the hubby take care of the boy since he cannot help otherwise?
Customer 1: When he is busy drinking local gin at the bar all day?
Customer 2:Chai! Women and marriage.
Hairdresser: He will stay there all day not contributing to the family upkeep and if she complains, she gets the beating of her life.
Customer 2: So if he stays there all day, how does he get the money to pay for his drinks?
Hairdresser: Probably taking/stealing from the wife.
And I was wondering why the hell she takes all that shit from him.
“ An abuser isn’t abusive 24/7. They usually demonstrate positive character traits most of the time. That’s what makes the abuse so confusing when it happens, and what makes leaving so much more difficult.
As the world marks this 16 days of Activism on violence against women and girls, may we all, male and female, victims, survivors, and spectators be that change we want to see. Speak up, educate, protect, finance the cause.
In what way would you help to STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN/GIRLS?
What would you do differently today to help STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN AND CHILDREN?