Most times, when I write on this blog, I am talking to me first, before anybody else. I need to hear these things more than you or anybody else, so when I write them out they are alive in my brain, they become more real and it is easier to remember that way.

So I recently listened to the American ‘smiling Preacher’, Joel Osteen, speaking about trying to be happy where you are while waiting for the next step, for a better tomorrow and I felt like he was talking to me. After all, when you think of it, most of our lives is spent waiting – you wait to walk, talk, go to school, get a job, marry, bear children, one phase at a time. Indeed, why not be happy while waiting since half out time is spent waiting?

Are you seeing the implications? If you are not happy while waiting, it means that half the time, you are sad, angry and depressed. We worry about this and that, there is always something that is not the way we would like it to be, things are never perfect so we spend our lives in an endless stream of worry and anxiety. I do not suggest that you cease hustling to attain your goals and make your dreams come true, no, it simply means relishing what you have, appreciating where you are, while happily pursuing your dreams and aspirations.

The funny thing is that once we get that which we seek at a particular point, we move right on to the next, forgetting to pause and appreciate our conquest. Where is the joy in that? We start immediately to pursue another, to worry and fret when it does not come as wished. We have no time to enjoy our lives, to enjoy the ‘little’ we have while hustling and waiting for the next.

Meanwhile, that which we look down on as ‘little’, to another person, might seem gigantic. That low paying job that you murmur and complain about, you know it is possible that there are hundreds of others around you that would kill for that same job? You complain to your friends about how lame and ugly and slow your spouse is while your friends wish they could have that same person you complain about – irony of life.

I have come to the conclusion that most often than not, our happiness is in our hands, that our attitude is the problem, not the situation itself.

Patience is not just waiting, it is the ability to be happy while waiting.

Happy new week dearies!